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Why Tyler Perry Has Done Nothing To Positively Influence Healthy Black Love

Why are American Black Men always publicly policing how Black Women date and romance and what Women should be doing and how they should be doing it? The audacity of these Men to constantly suggest that Black Women should submit and seek less than.

Men from other communities are rarely known for publicly telling the Women that look like them what to do when it comes to having a healthy relationship and it is also rare for them to insist that the Women who look like them should struggle. These are the same men that demand that Black Women must be submissive, or they will miss out on a loving relationship. Submissiveness and lack are not a blueprint for a healthy relationship. Why are Black Men the only Men always making these goofy relationship announcements? As if Black Women are so desperate for the Black Man’s unemotional, loveless take on romance.

Tyler Perry could have purely said, “Romantic relationships are very simple: love unconditionally and respectfully, have copious amounts of fun and make money together—whether your partner is rich from the start, rich in the middle, or rich towards the end.” Instead, during Tyler’s birthday week, he chose to trigger the Black community into a superfluous, low vibrational conversation about what a Black Woman should look for and accept in love.

Is Tyler Perry even in a relationship? Or is he so guarded about his fortune, that he disallows himself to fully receive love? Some of these celebrities claim they want all this privacy, but then emerge from their holes to proclaim some of the most off the wall nonsense that not a soul on this planet even asked them for. Why would Tyler Perry—during his birthday month no less, try to influence Black Women to find love with less paid men, of all the things he could encourage Women and/or Men to do? Did something transpire in his relationship or on a birthday date he was on recently? Did a woman he was seeing, not want to pay for or split something? Where exactly did this concept come from? Why are men—especially Black Men, always making suggestions to Women versus providing some type of healthy relationship insight to Men for once?

The 54-year-old Mogul is known for using his influence in positive ways, but his recent comments on Black Women during his appearance on Crystal Renee Hayslett’s Keep it Positive, Sweetie Podcast and what they should be doing to receive love, are not landing and this was not one of his more influential moments, considering the type of movies that have contributed to his fortune. His wealth was made mostly from creating stage plays and films about Black Women being traumatized in all relationships that should and could have been filled with love, mostly from Men with bad hairstyles. From Diary of a Mad Black Woman to Acrimony, Black Women in a Tyler Perry picture, are portrayed as having to survive trauma and struggle love on all levels—whether their partner was rich or not.

Black Women can and will love whoever, however they want—millionaire or non-millionaire. Stop incessantly trying to persuade Black Women to submit and continually attempting to convince them they should go against what they want and just accept what they can get. Tyler Perry and all men—how about publicly conversing amongst yourselves for an actual change and refrain from always being in Women’s business. Delve into Men’s business for once and influence a transformation from within.

Love, Nhayah Goode

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